Sunday, January 19, 2014

When Partnerships go Wrong (accountability partners - part 3)

In my last two posts, I've covered :

How to be a great accountability partner 

and

How to be accountable

Both are for my awesome Proverbs 31 Ministries small group - we're going to rock the accountability thing during our study of the wonderful book Made to Crave by Lysa TerKeurst! (related side note : it's not to late to sign up for the study! click here to join in the fun).

All accountability partnerships hinge on a relationship between two people. And, as we all know (cuz we're humans), relationships can get messy from time to time! And, unfortunately, the enemy uses that messiness to hold us back from living the full life God intends for us.

If either partner starts feeling tension during the partnership, or a conflict arises, it's important to:

ACT 

A : accept that we're all different! We might share some of the same struggles, but we likely come from different family backgrounds, live in different financial circumstances and have different daily needs. At the beginning of the partnership, try to have a conversation to learn about each other - about where each person comes from, what specific goals and challenges are and how to best work together as sisters in Christ. Establishing a baseline relationship will help prevent problems from happening, and, when they do (if they do), remembering that we're all different will hopefully help remind us that we're all part of God's kingdom together.
C : communicate, communicate, communicate! If a problem comes up, address it immediately. If you feel tension in a conversation, don't be afraid to share. It's really important, in any relationship, to find out what's really going on before anything can be solved. Note : communication should remain between partners only. Sharing negative feelings with anyone other than your partner is gossip and doesn't move anyone forward.
T : take the initiative to seek mediation, if necessary. If any partnership pair has tried to address problems together, but they persist, it's time to seek outside help! By "outside," for Group 28's purposes, this means outside the pair, but still within the group. Please come to me first, and if the three of us can't work things out, I'll find a way to create an alternate partnership that works better for all involved.

Praying for you, sweet friends! May all of you enjoy partnerships that are COOL and ON and may you never have to worry about having to ACT :)

Love and hugs from Holland!

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